This is the current state of my laundry room. A complete and total disaster. It makes me sad and ashamed and frustrated. But this is the dirty, messy, embarrassing REALITY of parenting. The underbelly of motherhood that everyone tries to hide. For you it might not be laundry. Maybe it’s the fact that you fed your kids McDonald’s every night this week. Or maybe that you’ve been too exhausted to read a bedtime story in a month. You forgot to sign the homework sheet…again. You sent your kid to school in a winter coat from 3 years ago. You lost your temper and yelled at your kids. Your toddler has words in his vocabulary that would need to be bleeped out on network tv. You’re wearing the same pair of black leggings for the 3rd day in a row. It doesn’t matter what it is. We all have our “dirty little parenting secrets” that we don’t feel comfortable exposing. Because we are afraid. Afraid to admit that parents have no clue what they are doing a large portion of the time. Afraid we are the only ones. Afraid to be judged. Afraid that or shortcomings will make us “bad” moms. Screw being afraid. The fact of the matter is that EVERY mom has something they’d rather not share. But by constantly hiding it and trying to appear perfect you lose the chance to see that you’re NOT the only one. Sometimes when you admit your shortcomings, when you wear your cracks with pride, you realize that we are all flawed in some way, but just because you are flawed doesn’t make you “bad”, it make you human. A messy laundry room/too much screen time/occasional junk food/being late to school drop off/bribing your kids/losing your temper isn’t bad parenting, it’s real life. Parenting is never simple and straightforward. Motherhood is messy, unpredictable and chaotic. So why fight it? Just go with the flow. Enjoy the craziness and try not to get smothered by a laundry avalanche.