There have been so many days in my life that I have been tired and stressed out and wished for nothing more than to lay in bed, uninterrupted. ALL day. I mean, isn’t that kind of every busy mom’s dream? Breakfast in bed. Enough time to read all the books that have been sitting on your night table. A legitimate reason to stay in your pj’s all day. Sounds fantastic, right? In theory, yes. In reality, ehhh… not so much. I have definitely had my ups and downs over the last 8 weeks of bed rest. Here a few tips that help keep me sane(ish).
Be Okay With It: A wise woman once told me that suffering comes from resisting the reality of the situation. Although this wise woman was my mom, and I’m pretty sure she stole the idea from Buddha, her words really resonated with me. When you stop wishing your situation were different and accept where you are, you can stop wasting your time worrying . You are on bed rest, that is your reality. Wishing you could get up, wishing you didn’t have a high risk pregnancy, wishing things were different is about as productive as wishing for your 18 year old body back.
Rest: Seriously, take naps. I know, it sounds ridiculous, right? But, think of all the upcoming sleepless nights ahead. Think of all the times you will be functioning with only 3 hours of sleep. Think of all the times you have thought/will think “I WISH I could just take a nap”. You are stuck lying in a bad or on a couch with doctor’s orders NOT to get up. There is no more perfect activity suited for bedrest than a nap. At first, you may feel a little guilty and try to resist, but believe me, you will not regret it.
Depend on Others: Women, especially mothers, are so used to taking care of everyone else that it is sometimes difficult to let other people take care of us. It’s in our nature to sacrifice and nurture, and we are conditioned to be that way. So when the situation flips it can be extremely difficult. But you need to just sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. Before you know it you’ll be jammin’ to your independent woman/girl power playlist again.
Give Up Control: Odds are your household is going to run a little…uh, differently. Sure, my husband’s “closet” is top of the dryer. And I’m pretty sure my daughter ate McDonald’s almost every day last week. Sure, that’s not how I would do things, but it’s not the end of the world.
Get Rid of Guilt: Look, the situation sucks, there’s no denying that. You will undoubtedly spend time feeling like guilty about being on bed rest. Guilty that your body isn’t handling pregnancy well. Guilty that you are a burden to others. Guilty that you can’t care for your other children. Guilty that you can’t work. Guilt, schmilt. When you feel those feelings creep up you need to take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are doing the best thing for your unborn child. This is a doctor ordered situation. Remember, you have nothing to feel guilty about, except maybe the three ice cream sandwiches you had for lunch.
Look, there is no easy way to deal with bed rest. Like anything else there are good days and bad. Just when you think you’ve gotten your bed rest routine down, you’ll find yourself randomly crying because you can’t walk to the mailbox. That’s okay. Just take a breath, realize the situation is temporary and start a Nashville binge watching session.