Before I was a mom I never realized how difficult it is to raise a child, especially in the early years. Bathe them, feed them, make sure they don’t choke on a Lego, play with them, keep them from eating dog food, etc. Hell, we even have to wipe their asses(which, by the way, that is a great way to determine how much you love someone: would you wipe their ass?). Forgive me, I have digressed. What I am beginning to realize is that raising a child takes SO much more than just doing things for them and keeping them from killing themselves(because every mom knows babies have a radar for the most dangerous item in the room). As mothers we are responsible for actually training our kids to be people. How crazy is that?! So, in theory, parents are capable of creating this whole little army of “mini me” troops who think like them and act like them! That’s a lot of power(which is SO cool), but on the flip side, that is an insane amount of responsibility. It scares me to think about the fact that it is my responsibility to teach my daughter, show her what’s right and wrong and basically shape their whole personalities. No mom wants to be the one whose kid is sitting on a shrink’s couch in 20 years blaming them for not being able to commit.
How do you even begin to teach another person how to be a person? Teach them to walk, teach them to talk, teach them to read, that’s obvious. My concern is how I’m going to teach my daughter to be the kind of person that shares something she really likes, even though she knows that means that she will have less. I want to her to be the kind of person who tells the cashier that she was given too much change. I want her to respect her elders, finds the positive side in a negative situation, accept people for who they are(even if others don’t).
At this point she is too young to really comprehend any of this, but I know that doesn’t mean she isn’t learning. I think that the best way to teach her(at this age or at any age)is to lead by example. Now that my daughter is at the age where she is starting to understand things I’m realizing that the examples that I am giving her are not going to turn her into the amazing person that I know she can be. I need to be more conscious of my actions and make an effort to change…NOW. I am determined to become a better person for my daughter. The same day that I got on this whole “be a better person” kick I came across the fantastic website Kind Over Matter . It’s this amazing website is “dedicated to kind acts,inspirational stories, arts and projects. If you go to this website and aren’t inspired to be a better person then there is seriously something wrong with you. To give you an idea of what Kind Over Matter is all about check out these posters that they encourage people to post in public places.
So here goes nothing…Mission:Be a Better Person begins NOW(or more likely after I finish my glass of wine and reading the latest issue of US Weekly).